Ghana in Focus: Relationships in Ghana Part VI: Exposing the secret some Ghanaian women are hiding!

In this enlightening episode of "Ghana in Focus, I take you on a journey to uncover the hidden complexities of dating Ghanaian women, specifically aimed at men from the diaspora. If you are a diaspora man looking to navigate the intricate landscape of relationships in Ghana, this episode is packed with invaluable insights and practical advice to help you avoid potential heartaches and pitfalls.

I shed light on the multifaceted nature of relationships with Ghanaian women. Unlike Western dating dynamics, where monogamy is often the norm, I reveal that many Ghanaian women may simultaneously maintain multiple partners for various purposes. For instance, one partner might be for casual dates, another for dinners, one for sexual relations, and yet another for financial support. This behaviour, often concealed from their main partners, highlights the necessity for diaspora men to approach these relationships with caution and awareness.

I discuss the rise of "slay queens" – women who pursue married men or those with significant resources, manipulating them for material gains. This underscores the importance of vigilance for men from the African diaspora, as some women may go as far as making false claims, such as feigned pregnancies, to secure financial benefits.

Throughout the episode, I share personal experiences and observations that offer a deeper understanding of these dynamics. For example, I recount how some Ghanaian women may openly state that if one partner does not fulfil their sexual needs, they will seek another to do so. This candid conversation aims to equip diaspora men with the knowledge needed to protect themselves both emotionally and financially when engaging in relationships with Ghanaian women.

I also expose the secret that some Ghanaian women hide, such as allowing men to unknowingly fathering children that may not be biologically theirs. I advise men to consider paternity tests if you suspect deceit and emphasize the need to be astute and discerning when dating in Ghana. 

In summary, this episode of "Ghana in Focus" is a must-listen for diaspora men looking to establish meaningful and genuine relationships in Ghana. My insights provide a comprehensive guide to navigating the complexities of Ghanaian romance, from understanding the opportunistic tendencies of some women to recognizing the importance of vigilance and awareness. By equipping listeners with this crucial knowledge, my aim is  to help diaspora men protect their hearts and wallets, ultimately leading to more successful and fulfilling relationships.

Chapters

• 0:04 Ghanaian Women's Relationship Secrets
• 10:14 Dating Ghanaian Women

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:04

Welcome to this week's edition of Ghana in Focus with myself, kwame, ghanaian writer, broadcaster, journalist, podcaster and entrepreneur. And this episode of Ghana in Focus is part six, looking about relationships in Ghana. I'm going to expose what some Ghanaian women are hiding from their partners. So this is a very, very intriguing edition of Ghanaian focus relationships part six, exposing what some Ghanaian women are hiding from their partners. And this is important, particularly if you are the diaspora man african-american or african, from jamaica, from uk, wherever you are wanting to come to ghana to find marriage. Yep, so I'm going to explain something you need to be careful of when entering into a relationship with a ghanaian woman, with a ghanaian woman, because most of them keep something hidden from these partners, particularly if you are from the diaspora, and I'm going to expose what they are hiding so that your eyes are open when you enter into a relationship with a Ghanaian woman. All right, okay. So before we start the podcast, just to make sure that we are on YouTube. So please subscribe to Ghana Africa in Focus on YouTube. We want to get 200 subscribers by the end of the year. So far we've got five or six. So please subscribe to Ghana Africa in Focus on YouTube and click on the notification bell, meaning that every time I upload a new episode, youtube will notify you Again. We're also on Spotify being the main platform that we are on. Again, you know we want to get 800 followers by the end of the year, so look out for Ghana, africa in Focus on Spotify and hit follow Again, meaning that you're notified by Spotify every time I upload a new podcast. All right. And if you want to donate to a show, we kindly accept donations to help us grow and continue to bring some great content for you from Ghana and from Africa. And so if you want to help us with our costs, you can donate as little as three US dollars a month. You're not obliged to keep it. You can keep it for even one month and I will leave you the link to donate on the Fundraiser program All right. And if you do want to do any sort of business in Ghana, despite the current climate, we can offer you a lot of advice and that can save you a lot of time, money and effort, because I've got more than 10 years experience of doing business in Ghana. Like I said, I've got land, I've got property, etc. So we know about the Ghanaian terrain, about the Ghanaian market, and so, if you'd like to book a consultation with myself again, I'll leave you my email address in the front of the show. Just drop me an email and we can book your consultation period. We do an hour session for 30 US dollars or a 20 minute briefing for 20 US dollars. All right, so we can tell you, make a program for you, based on what your needs and wants are when it comes to relocating to Ghana.

Speaker 1: 3:28

All right, so let's get into today's podcast of Ghana in Focus, exposing the secret that some Ghanaian women are keeping from their men. So, as I mentioned in part one, relationships in Ghana part one. So, as I mentioned in part one, relationships in Ghana part one. You know relationships in Ghana, particularly if you are an African man from the diaspora, you know they can be very, very complex indeed, and the reason why they are complex is that Ghanaian women, a lot of them, are not honest and, moreover, it's sad to say, a lot of Ghanaian women are players. They have more than one man, one man or other. And how do I know this? A, from experience. And B, I have a sister who's obviously Ghanaian and she tells me that a lot of Ghanaian, a lot of her friends have got two, three, four boyfriends, yeah, at the same time. And so this is what you need to be aware, particularly as a diaspora coming from US, uk, canada or what have you, when you are dating in Ghana.

Speaker 1: 4:31

So, like I mentioned, you know some Ghanaian women not all, but a majority of Ghanaian women have more than one one man. So, for example, so my sister, my sister, told me that she has friends and they have got about four men. So one girl's got four men. So she has one that she just dates with, you know, goes out casually, you know, goes to a cinema, goes to a bar, whatever, yeah. Then there's one man that she just, you know, takes her to dinner. Yeah, the guy just takes it to dinner, that's it, yeah. Then she got another man that she has sexual, you know, relations with. They just have that, the sex relationships, yeah. And then another man that just give her gifts, you know, like some sugar daddy, you know, buy the gifts and, um, you know, probably rents an apartment for her. That's his task, nothing else. He's not there to sex her, he's not there to take her out, he's not there to, you know, be in a whole relationship, right, he's just there just to take care of her economically. Yeah, so you have to understand, as a diasporan, that a lot of Ghanaian girls, women, have got more than one boyfriend. Yeah, so you must be careful when you are dating or if you're thinking of entering into a relationship that you would like to extend further into marriage. So, because of the it's not the economy, it's not. You know, you shouldn't blame the economy for this Because of the way some Ghanaian women have programmed themselves.

Speaker 1: 6:16

You know, a lot of them take men for granted and a lot of them like to exploit men, particularly if you're from the diaspora. I will keep on banging this because, like I mentioned before in Lunches, part 1, a lot of Guinean women not all, but a lot of them are after money. Yeah, they're chasing men who've got money, and particularly you as a diasporan. They see you, rightly or wrongly, as somebody that's got a lot of money because you're from US, you're from Canada, you're from UK, you're from Australia, wherever you. Yeah, as long as you're from the West, they automatically think this is how they've been raised. This is their perception that you've got money because you come from the West.

Speaker 1: 7:00

And so, given this, a lot of Ghanaian women are chasing money, and particularly men from the diaspora who they perceive have a lot of money. So because of this, it's made some Ghanaian women those who chase money they're very cold. They don't really want to overstand, you know, and enter into a fruitful, meaningful dialogue that will also integrate a fruitful, meaningful relationship wholesome. You know, they have to material possessions and they have to money. And so, given this and, like I said, also because of the way some Ghanaian got, you know, got more than one man, a lot of Ghanaian women have sex with the one guy and then have another guy that they're dealing with here as some kind of relationship here. And so the secret I'm expressing right now is this A lot of gynae women right have got babies but their partner or the husband that they've married is not the baby father. I know for a fact, because this nearly happened to me. I know for a fact right, that there are many Ghanaian women right who are married to men and those men are not the original fathers of those babies that they've got. Yeah, because Ghanaian women are very, very stupid. They're very, very trickery. Why? I nearly, like I said, I've nearly experienced this myself One girl that I was dating, right.

Speaker 1: 8:40

She blatantly, openly, said that if I didn't have sex with her, right she would have sex with someone else. I want to say that again. One girl that I used to date in Ghana, right, openly, blatantly, told me that if I did not have sex with her, she that if I do not have sex with her, she'll find someone else to have sex with. Now, think about that now. Now, if she can say that to me as a man, you don't think she's doing that already? So you think I'm the only one that she's dealing with? You think I'm the only one that is giving her sex? Think about it now, brothers.

Speaker 1: 9:17

And this is behaviour of a lot of Ghanaian women, to the extent that, like I said, there's a lot of Ghanaian men who don't even know that some of the children that they think is theirs are not theirs. I want to say that again, a lot of Ghanaian men and I know some of them a lot of Ghanaian men who think that the children that they have of that woman are theirs, but they're not theirs. And because, like I said, a lot of Gandhi, women are players, they are big time players and they're after money. The long story of it is that they're after money and then what they can get with that. So, whether it's material things, whether it's a car, renting an apartment, material possessions, cash or what have you, that is what they're after. And so, you know, having sex with them.

Speaker 1: 10:14

Right, you know it may sound as crude as it is, you know it's like a business transaction because, like I said, in relationships in Ghana, part one, dating in Ghana is not like dating in the US, uk, in other western countries, totally different. Yeah, because the women are different in Ghana. A lot of them, particularly, you know, those born and bred in Ghana. Yeah, I'm not talking about Nigerians or Ivorians or Gambians or you know, you know other African nations who live in Ghana, but even they copy the Ghanaian sort of mentality. But I'm talking about Ghanaian women born and bred in Ghana, yeah, of Ghanaian parentage.

Speaker 1: 11:00

Those girls are very, very, you know, opportunist. A lot of them are chasing money, a lot of them after money and a lot of them are, you know, really manipulating men for their own, um, material agenda. You know, like I said before, there's even, you know, uh, not the same, but there are some girls in ghana who are known as slay queens. Yep, and those women openly go out to take other women's husbands or boyfriends? Yeah, because of this money, money, money, material possession that they're after, yeah, so so those are the worst type of Ghanaian women, these slay queens.

Speaker 1: 11:48

But unless you're smart as a black man from the diaspora yeah, unless they're very, very astute you will not recognize this because you don't know A, you don't know Ghanaian women and, b you don't understand the nuances of dating in Ghana and relationships in Ghana. And so you've got to be very, very careful when dating and having relationships with a Ghanaian woman, because she can lead you up the garden path. Like I said, if you were to marry her, she could say I'm pregnant, even though you may have been the one or two times, but that child ain't your child. That child is somebody else's child. But because she sees you as a meal ticket or as somebody that can fulfil her material needs, she's going to crack on to you right and say that this is your child.

Speaker 1: 12:40

And so what happens in some cases is that some men that are canny and that got their heads screwed on some of these men will have paternity tests to see if they are the real father of that child that that Ghanaian girl says is his, and the results of some of these paternity tests have bear witness to the fact that the Ghanaian men, or some of the men that these Ghanaian women are dating, are not the fathers, are not the biological fathers of the children that the woman says they're theirs, showing you, yeah, that some Ghanaian women are playing a very dangerous, dangerous, manipulative and tricky game when it comes to dating men, particularly African men from the diaspora. And you, as a black man from the diaspora, you've got to be aware of this. So, this secret that I've exposed to you today, put that in your head, put that in your computer memory, put that in your computer bank. So you know, yeah, that if you were to enter into a relationship with a Ghanaian woman, that A a woman rather that A she's got more than one man it's not just you and that B she's having sexual intercourse with other men apart from you, and there's a good chance that if she's become pregnant, that child may not be yours. Yeah, and so, and warn you brothers, warn you brothers from the diaspora in particular, because we know our women. We know our women.

Speaker 1: 14:22

Like I said, I've got experience of dealing with Ghanaian women, so we know what we're talking about. I know what I'm talking about because I've witnessed it and I've seen it in their first hand hand and they got caught out. Yeah, because even one girl said to me that one girl later on time said to me that, oh, she was pregnant. And then my sister right, confronted her right and she said to the girl are you really pregnant? And she says no, right, and he says that I was only doing it right to you know, for him to be with me so I can take me to europe.

Speaker 1: 14:56

You see the mentality of our women, of some ghanaian women. So, brothers, be very, very careful when dating ghana. All right, because if you don't do your duties and I'm afraid you've got to be like a private detective to source out and filter out a lot of these gang new women because, like I said, you are not the only one that she's dating. She's got three or four others apart from you who she's seen on the side. And, like I said before, gang new women have got very, very sweet mouth, very, very, very sweet mouth, and they can seduce you right, particularly if you're falling for her right. She can seduce you right Into believing every word that she's saying.

Speaker 1: 15:45

Again, I'm talking to you from experience, from this, from experience, and like the African proverb proverb goes, experience is the best teacher. Yeah, and so, like I said, brothers, be aware, be aware of the nature of some of the Ghanaian girls that are out of there that you want to encounter into relationship, that you want to take further. All right, because if you don't do your intelligence, yeah, you have a shock and you could be fathering somebody else's child. All right, so this has been a sort of quick edition of Ghanian Focus, exposing the secret that some Ghanian women are hiding from their partners. So I hope that you found this podcast useful and that it could help you in terms of trying to get a very, very good woman that you can call your life partner and somebody that you could feel to be married, because, like I said, dating in ghana is a completely, completely different kettle of fish as compared to in the west. All right, so if you've liked this uh podcast, appreciate to your friends, your family, such a million networks.

Speaker 1: 17:04

Subscribe to Ghana African Focus on YouTube. Subscribe to Ghana African Focus on Spotify. Like I said, if you want to donate to the show, please do the link is there in the footnotes to the show and donate a little less three US dollars a month. Alright, and so for myself, kwame I'm from all the crew here on Ghana in Focus, thank you very much for listening. And in part 2 or next week's edition of Ghana in Focus, I will tell you why I am against interracial or biracial relationships. Yeah, because I'm not into that. My wife is African Ghanaian, so I'm not into dating outside my race. And I'll tell you why in next week's edition of Ghana, africa In Focus. All right, so from myself, kwame, and from all the crew here on Ghana In Focus, thank you very much for listening and we'll see you in the next edition of Ghana In Focus.